I went out dancing and pulled an all-nighter which I'm not even sure I ever did that when I was in college at Columbia, MO. It was fantastic! I shook my booty for like 2 hours straight. I literally had sweat dripping off my chin (not attractive, no no no!) and my legs were even sweaty. I didn't think my legs could sweat!!
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But here's what I wrote on my personal Facebook page...
I'm drunk and I don't feel pretty but I get to dance soon!!! Woot!
My husband, Jake, was NOT happy with that post.
He didn't care that I was out dancing with the girls, and no he didn't really mind that I was out until 5am. He didn't care that Sprout had a bad night and didn't want to sleep for him.
He REALLY cared that I did NOT feel PRETTY.
I honestly never gave it much thought, but I essentially gave him a slap in the face.
Nearly every single day this man tells me I'm beautiful, gorgeous, cute, pretty, sexy, hot, or some wonderful compliment. But to be 100% honest, I thought it was just saying it to be nice...not that he actually MEANT it.
So imagine my surprise when he says he ALWAYS means it and he'd never 'just say' something like that to me unless he genuinely felt that way.
Wow, did I feel like an ASS.
Cause guess what ladies?!?! I say the same things to him and he BELIEVES me. And just like him, I mean every.single.word.I.say.
So it got me thinking...
Here are...
5 Reasons You Should Believe Your Husband When He Tells You 'You're Beautiful'
5. Women need to learn how to take a freaking compliment!
Why can't women take a compliment? If you know the answer, please enlighten me. When people say, 'Cute shirt, Sarah' I totally minimize it by saying something like 'Yeah, it's like the only cute thing in my closet.' Instead, I need to say, 'Gee, thanks! That makes me feel good!' I'm going to work on this and try my damnedest to take things at face value. It's a sad world if everyone has some hidden agenda in what they say to me!!
4. Get some freakin' self-esteem!!!
I view myself as a fairly confident person. I'm opinionated. I'm loud. I laugh at myself. But I rarely look in the mirror and say 'Damn Girl!' or 'Hmm, I look nice today.' Everyone has bad hair days, everyone gets an outbreak of acne, everyone feels fat (even skinny girls do!). But the difference here is that I then scrutinize myself the rest of the day and think that people care sooooo much about little old me, they judge me every step down the aisle in Walmart, Mall, Road, Wherever! That's simply not how the world works. I need to practice what I preach and get some more confidence and own whatever I am wearing, doing, loving, and living.
3. You know you'll look back at today and think 'Holy shit! I WAS pretty!'
I found this picture below from 1999 - I think I was 16 or 17 and I know at the time I thought I was one ugly duckling. I see that picture now and I'm like shit...I was freaking gorgeous and didn't even know it. DAMMIT!
But you know what, I am going to be this girl again. I'm going to lose weight and feel better. But before I even do that...I'm going to believe the compliments I am given.
2. Your husband loves you and MEANS it when he says 'You're beautiful'.
Your husband and really most men in general (sorry dudes!), don't sit around and think, 'Hmmm, what shenanigans-esque crap shall I tell my wife today?' They just don't think like that. Hell, I just found out that the reason my husband leaves stuff EVERYWHERE and nothing goes back where it belongs is because he doesn't think 'Oh, that doesn't go there, it goes in the pantry.' Instead his mind thinks, 'I don't want to hold this trash any more so I'll just leave it on the couch.' Irritating to women, but goes to show just how genuine they are when they tell us things. It's not that men are simple-minded neanderthals, but they are simple in their feelings and don't over analyze (ehhem, women!). Take what they say at face value and end it there.
1. Turnabout is fair play!
How would you feel if your husband questioned your intentions with every compliment? Wouldn't make you feel very good, would it? No, no, no, it sure wouldn't. In fact, I know I would be one pissed off wife and would say 'Why don't you believe me? Am I a liar?'. Yikes! So, do us all a favor and BELIEVE with every fiber of your being that your husband thinks you are beautiful. And guess what, he doesn't just think it, he KNOWS it.
You.Are.Beautiful.
